by Jason White
As I mentioned before, forgiveness is one of the most difficult ideas and practices in the Christian faith to grasp. It is not only difficult because of the struggles we have with forgiving those around us, but also forgiving ourselves. Many times, we can be the biggest critics of ourselves. We expect so much of ourselves, that when we fall short, we become disappointed in ourselves and our actions. This disappointment grows in me because of what I spoke about in my day 2 blog: lack of patience. Just as we must accept and be patient of those around us, we must learn to accept the fact that we are also a work in progress. We are constantly growing and developing in Christ every day. Included in the growth is that occasionally we will fall short of our goals and expectations, and that is okay. We must be able to be comfortable with that fact, forgive ourselves for that failure, learn from it and build on it. We are good enough for the Lord’s forgiveness, so we must be good enough for our own as well. Studies have shown that forgiveness leads to better physical and mental health practices. Holding on to those things we can’t forgive, not only effects our peace but also our overall health (especially when we are targeting ourselves over those shortcomings). That is not to say we should become comfortable in our failures and shortcomings. We should not “aim low.” It is the complete opposite. We just need to be able to learn from those failures. We need to be able to forgive ourselves, learn from them, and improve.