Some Practical Problems in Forgiveness - Part 5

Some Practical Problems in Forgiveness - Part 5

How does forgiveness occur if you avoid or never get the chance to offer forgiveness?  While I cannot begin to explain forgiveness in an impossible situation, I do know that as a human being, I am limited in my knowledge and have no idea what the future holds.  The two concepts that give me hope are that forgiveness is not dependent on another person's reaction and that our God is not confined by time and space even though we cannot comprehend reality in any other way.

Some Practical Problems in Forgiveness - Part 3

Some Practical Problems in Forgiveness - Part 3

Does forgiveness mean excusing repetitive behavior?  In cases of abusive relationships and societal injustices such as racism and sexism, the book Forgiven and Forgiving makes an interesting distinction between forgiveness and reconciliation.  Author L. William Countryman writes: "Forgiveness can hold open the possibility of reconciliation. ... The only forgiving and loving thing here is to demand change."

Forgiveness Builds the Future - Part 4

Forgiveness Builds the Future - Part 4

But what of remembrance? Do I forget? Desmond Tutu in his book No Future without Forgiveness says, “Forgiving is not forgetting; it’s actually remembering – remembering and not using your right to hit back. It’s a second chance for a new beginning. And the remembering part is particularly important. Especially if you don’t want to repeat what happened.”

Cultivating a Forgiving Spirit - Part 4

Cultivating a Forgiving Spirit - Part 4

What happens if we have an unforgiving spirit? Hardness of heart, anxiety, worry about the future, self-deceit, unrealistic expectations of others, loneliness, and emptiness are some of consequences of an unforgiving spirit. Maintaining an unforgiving spirit allows my own pain to fester and grow blocking any opportunity to help others see God’s vision for a better future.